Because I have thoughts that exceed what most of my posts cover, I want to introduce a new feature for Tuesdays where I can bring a variety of subjects to you…as a sort of conversation starter! I have already started to enjoy the personal comments my readers leave me, and I want this to snowball that same way. I definitely want you to feel like I am accessible and not just a spewer of content, so see this more as a correspondence (if there’s anything you want to see me address in the future, as always, feel free to contact me!).
To start things off, the topic of home design doesn’t steer too far from previous posts–I guess as a way to not scare anybody away. Emily Henderson read my mind when she posted this guide to decorating for you and your spouse. I’ve encountered similar hiccups in the past few months, and it’s made me wonder–do you take your other half into account when decorating? Do they even have an opinion about it?
Starting out, Ethan and I had an air mattress and my life savings. And seeing as though neither of us had ever had full reign of decorating the places we lived in…it was going to be interesting. Before setting out, I asked Ethan a lot of questions about his style and preferences; he stood by the notion that he didn’t care or even have one (very misleading). When we were out in the various stores however, I could see how our priorities differed. I certainly didn’t know how they could come together to actually furnish our place.
I hoped that Ethan would have an easier time defining his style than I do with mine. I’m a bit of a basket-case in that way (oddly enough, shopping for furniture has helped me understand myself better!). But as a quick illustration I’ll say that if it’s timeless or quirky I’m instantly in love. Things with Asian, mid-century modern, and nautical design elements grab me as well.
Ethan, on the other-hand, is about comfort and texture. He didn’t seem to care about a couch’s shape, but had to be able to scrunch down in a strange reclining position to see if it was comfortable. He felt his way through headboard fabric swatches, not concerning himself with grade or color. Ethan is also quite concerned with things matching, which has proved difficult whilst shopping for light fixtures.
Give and take has been the theme of decorating our first place. The bedrooms above were a little experiment I conducted, where I showed Ethan rooms in my house magazines (he told me what he did/didn’t like). It’s a little intimidating deciphering what Ethan likes visually, but I did find out he a). can be very particular and b). doesn’t dissect design elements. Immediate repulsion is his most prominent signifier. And if there aren’t any signs of that, it can be assumed that (blank) is livable. I, on the other hand, mull over all the aspects of a room/product, and slowly determine if it is something that I do or can like. A potential problem area, as mentioned before, is that of lighting and future art arrangements. Ethan has expressed great dislike in the trending gallery wall…a look I absolutely desire. I won’t let Ethan’s taste win every time, but I think it’s important to agree on the big things.
For us, home is sanctuary and I want Ethan to be just as happy as I am in the space. Although I will always be the one to initiate a purchase, I regard his opinions highly and
probably won’t buy anything he sneers at. Do you and your other see eye-to-eye when shopping for the home? Do you have a method for decorating your shared spaced? What has caused your biggest dispute?
/ House Beautiful Jan 2012 / House Beautiful Sept 2012 /