I started the Christmas conversation even before Ethan was allowed to request leave. I am a big family gal, talking to my sister and mom multiple times a day and Skyping every weekend or two. I absolutely love waking up to everyone at home…and with all the puppies’ first Christmases I couldn’t not stay at home for our vacation.
Ethan had other plans. The last time he was home was in March for nine days (part of which we spent on our honeymoon). When I said I wanted to stay at parents, he said he wanted to stay at his. And I thought, oh no.
Traveling home is stressful enough without the added pressures of dividing time between the homes. Just with our simple first discussion, I knew neither of us were going to budge. And that’s when I thought, well why don’t we stay at our respective homes? Although we don’t come from the same towns, taking the back roads keeps travel time within fifteen minutes or so. I wake up early and breakfast with my family, and Ethan sleeps in at his dad’s and hangs out with his brothers. It almost feels like we are dating, funny enough! The best part of the plan is that Simon is able to play with his brother and sister, take advantage of our fenced backyard, and have an extra three laps to lay on while relaxing in the evening.
We’ve been home for a week so far, and we’ve kept to our own families so far. Ethan has come over for quaint dinners, but other than that, we have been “living separate lives.” With Amanda heading back to Kansas City today, this week will be freer for me to drive to Jackson to visit both sides of Ethan’s family. Tonight we have some dining and a portrait to take with his dad; Thursday is a grand meal with his mom’s side (Wednesday is still up for grabs). Then Friday we are off to Alaska! Is anyone else frowning? I love being home.
How do you divvy up your holidays with multiple families? Is it a source of family feuding or have years of practice served you well in scheduling?
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